Showing posts with label Chinatown. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Chinatown. Show all posts

Monday, May 9, 2011

Never Forget

Hanging on a bus with the same group of people for a week.
You really get to know them.
(And they get to know you too.)
One night at dinner we went down taboo avenue.
Talking religion.
AND politics.
I learned that I was the only one who voted for Obama.
Or so I thought.
The next morning, one of the moms quietly walked up to me.
Like we were buying a Gucci purse in Chinatown.
And she whispered -- “I voted for Obama too.”
Shhhh.
(Why is that such a bad thing?)
Anyhoo...
We also had a long talk about my Jewish upbringing.
And the lack of religion currently in my life.
There were a lot of different beliefs represented in our group.
Which I always welcome.
But I learned quickly that I was the only who stopped at the Old Testament.
If you know what I’m sayin.
So when we made our final stop of the trip, my feelings were the center of attention.
The stop was at the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum.
Or the USHMM for short.
Not exactly ending with a smile.
But one of the most powerful experiences.
And learning experiences.
You could ever ask for.
The museum is loaded with incredible images.
And videos.
And displays.
From the worst of times.
Like every other museum we had seen, this one was well thought out.
And presented with tremendous class.
But unlike most every other museum.
This one grabbed me by the throat.
And the gut.
I had been to similar museums in LA.
And in Israel.
And I have learned quite a bit about the atrocities.
But clearly not everyone at the museum had.
I rode up the elevator with a different tour group.
A group that was talking.
And joking.
And in some cases laughing.
It told me they did not know where they were.
Or what they were about to see.
But when we got off the elevator that all changed.
In a hurry.
The room fell quiet. 
So quiet, you could hear your heart drop.
As I walked around, I saw people looking at the pictures.
AND reading the stories.
Children were staring.
As if they had seen a real life ghost.
I told my daughter she was going to view things she had never viewed before.
Not exactly the museum of modern art.
And as we sat in a room listening to audio accounts from survivors, I saw the confusion of her face.
How in the world did this happen?
How did the world let this happen?
But the fact is, this did happen.
And the more people who visit this museum.
And other museums like it.
The more they will learn about it.
There were new things I learned about the Holocaust during this latest visit.
But there was plenty I already knew.
Before we entered the building, one of the parents in our group asked if anyone from my family was in the Holocaust.
“No,” I said.
“My mom and my dad had no brothers and no sisters, so we had a very small family.”
But I shared the story about the mother of one of my closest friends.
She grew up in Europe.
And as a young girl she watched.
Watched as the Nazis entered her house.
And watched as they exited with her father.
Never to be seen again.
Unfortunately her story was far from one of a kind.
I think I heard six million of them in the museum.
One more heartbreaking than the next.
Disgusting.
Outrageous.
Revealing.
Scary.
Sad.
Pick a word.
For me it was all of the above.
Plus one.
Light Bulb.
Actually that’s two.
It came at an exhibit of pictures.
Pictures of arms.
Jewish arms that were tattooed by the Nazis.
They tattooed numbers on the arms as a form of ID.
And to make it worse, Jewish people are forbidden from getting tattoos.
When I saw the exhibit a light bulb went off in my head.
A light bulb that showed me a picture of my great aunt.
My dad’s aunt.
His mother’s sister.
I was very young when she passed.
But seeing the pictures almost instantly reminded me.
Reminded me of the tattoo on her arm.
I remember seeing it there.
But we never talked about it.
I was too young.
I don’t know if she ever talked about it.
But it was there.
I had forgotten it was there.
But it was there.
Never forget.
I shared the story with my daughter.
That was the least I could do.

Never forget.



Saturday, October 2, 2010

Feeting Frenzy

I am old.
Officially.
How do I know that?
Well let me give you a couple of examples.
A few months ago my kids and I went to Einstein Bagels.
I had a coupon for a free “Chocolate Covered Strawberry Latte.”
I took one sip and threw it in the trash.
Really.
It was too sweet.
TOO SWEET?
When did that happen to me?
Exhibit B.
I won my first fantasy baseball league in 1990 thanks to Doug Drabek and his 22 wins for the Pittsburgh Pirates.
Two weeks ago his 22-year old son, Kyle, made his Major League Debut.
Doug Drabek has a 22-year old son?

Wow, I am old.
Example 3.
One of my best friends in the world is visiting me this weekend in New York with his wife.
We had a blast today, walking the entire city, doing a little window shopping.
It was perfect.
When the day came to an end, we went to go grab a bite to eat in the Little Italy/Chinatown area.
Now back in the day, the first stop after dinner would have been a club.
Or a pub.
Or a karaoke bar.
Um, not anymore.
On our way back from dinner, where oh by the way, we got wasted on diet soda and tap water, we stopped for.......
a Chinese foot massage.
A foot massage!
A FOOT MASSAGE?
Your honor, I rest my case.
I am officially old.
For $30, we each spent the next hour somewhere between heaven and hell.
We were informed that there are 365 pressure points in the human body, “one for every day of the year.”
We were also told that 200 and something are in the feet.
I don’t know the exact number, but I felt them all.
And these were some pros doing the work too.
They didn’t speak much English, but Tony, David and Hansen let their fingers do the talking.
I wonder if those were their real names?
Who cares.
David was a doctor back in China, so he knew what he was doing and the other guys were following his lead.
It took about.... 1-2-3.... three seconds to feel the pain.
I don’t know if you’ve ever had a foot massage before -- and I had not -- but let me tell you, it was awesome.
Did I say awesome, I meant awful.
Did I say awful, I meant incredible.
One second, my body was shaking.  
The next second, I was crying.   
The next second, my friend and I were laughing.
Uncontrollably.
Thanks to the unreal pain we were both feeling... and loving.
Our feet were getting more relief than the Yankees bullpen.
I’ve had many a massage before.   
Good ones, bad ones, hard ones, weak ones.
But a foot massage by someone who could clearly break my foot with one finger.
Never.
At one point, Dr. David was beating on my friend’s foot so hard, it looked more like a sparring session than a massage.
My guy, Hansen, was not nearly as experienced, but he was just as strong.
He kept a close eye on Dr. David to see what move was next.
When I heard my friend in a full giggle-scream mode, I pulled a Meg Ryan and asked for what he was having.
Bad move!
Or good move!
I’m not sure.
The pain he brought on was so excruciating and so fantastic and so painful and so relaxing.  


All at the same time.
I don’t know if I loved it or hated it, but I can’t wait to go back.
Literally around the block, there were hundreds of people at dozens of bars spending way more than $30 to lower their blood pressure.
But there is no way their Red Bull and whatever could match what we were feeling.
For this old man, my drink of choice was a foot rub.
Like any good massage, it came with a happy ending.
And that happy ending was, the ending.
Sixty minutes in, after moving from the feet to the shoulders and arms, the alarm went off and he stopped.
Finally.
I’ve never been so happy.
I think.
It took me about three minutes to wake up from the daze and catch my breath and when I did, I felt like a new person.
Still an old person, but with new circulation.